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Råd til gifte par

Dere gifte kvinner må sette mennene deres foran dere selv. Det gjelder også de kvinnene som er gifte med menn som ikke tror på budskapet om Jesus. For dersom mannen ser at dere handler uselvisk og lever et rent liv for Gud, kan dere påvirke ham til å tro uten å si et eneste ord.

Strev ikke etter å fange oppmerksomheten på det ytre, som kostbare smykker, vakre klær og kunstferdig frisyre. Nei, prioriter heller de indre verdiene og ha et mykt og behagelig vesen. Det er en skjønnhet som aldri forsvinner, og noe som er kostbart i Guds øyne. Den skjønnheten preget de kvinnene som levde for lenge siden og tilhørte Gud. De stolte på Gud og satte mannen over seg selv. Sara for eksempel, var lydig mot Abraham som var mannen hennes, og kalte ham herre. Ta henne til et ideal og gjør det som er godt uten å være redd for noe som helst.

Dere gifte menn, dere har ansvaret for å leve sammen med konene deres på en måte som stemmer med den undervisningen dere har fått. Vis omsorg for henne, etter som hun er svakere og mer utsatt. Husk på at også hun en dag vil få del i gaven som er det evige livet. Vis henne respekt. Ja, dere må behandle konene deres slik som Gud vil, ellers kommer han ikke til å svare på bønnene dere ber.

Råd til alle troende

Og nå ett ord til dere alle: Forsøk å leve i fullkommen harmoni med hverandre. Tenk alltid på det som er best for andre. Elsk hverandre som søsken bør gjøre. Vis hverandre medfølelse og erkjenn hverandre sine behov. Pass på at ingen tar hevn over noen, og at ingen svarer med hån selv om han blir hånet. Nei, be i stedet om at Gud må gi alt godt til fiendene dere måtte ha. En slik innstilling vil Gud at dere skal ha, etter som dere selv har blitt innbudt til en dag å få del i alle godene hans.

10 Det står i Skriften:

”Dersom du elsker livet og vil nyte godt av det,
    forsøk da å kontrollere tungen din.
Tenk på hvert minste ord som kommer over leppene.
    Si ikke noe ondt og lyv aldri!
11 Slutt å gjøre det som er ondt,
    gjør heller det som er godt.
Strev etter å leve i fred med alle.
12     Herrens øyne våker over dem som er lydige mot ham,
og ørene hans hører bønnene deres.
    Men han står imot dem som gjør det onde.”[a]

Vær beredt til å lide

13 Hvem vil gjøre dere noe ondt dersom dere er ivrige til å gjøre godt? 14 Dersom noen gjør dere ondt fordi dere følger Guds vilje, da skal dere se på dette som et privilegium. Vær ikke redd for noen og la dere ikke skremme. 15 Dere skal ære og opphøye Jesus Kristus, han som er Herre i livet deres. Dersom noen spør dere om troen, skal dere være beredt til å gjøre greie for håpet dere har om evig liv. 16 Dere skal svare med respekt, og uten å virke overlegne. Pass på at dere alltid har god samvittighet. Da må de som anklager dere, gå skamfull bort. De har snakket nedsettende om alt det gode dere gjør fordi dere tilhører Kristus. 17 Iblant kan det være Guds vilje at vi må lide på grunn av at vi har gjort noe godt. Det er i alle fall bedre å ha det slik, enn å lide for å ha gjort noe ondt.

18 Kristus selv måtte lide. Han døde for å ta straffen for syndene våre på seg, en gang for alle. Ja, han som aldri hadde gjort noe ondt, døde for at vi som var onde mennesker, skulle få tilgivelse og komme til Gud. Kroppen hans ble drept, men Guds Ånd gjorde ham levende igjen.[b] 19 Gjennom Guds Ånds kraft kunne han seinere oppsøke og befale åndene som Gud holder fanget.[c] 20 Det var disse åndene som på Noah sin tid nektet å være lydig mot Gud, til tross for at han tålmodig ventet mens Noah bygde sin båt. Bare åtte personer ble reddet da vannet oversvømte jorden.

21 Dette vannet er et bilde på dåpen, som nå redder dere på grunn av at Jesus Kristus har stått opp fra de døde. Dåpen handler ikke om at kroppen bli vasket ren fra smuss, men om at vi vender oss til Gud og ber om å få syndene renset bort. 22 Ja, Jesus Kristus sto opp fra de døde og vendte tilbake til himmelen. Der sitter han nå på Guds høyre side og regjerer, etter at alle englene, maktene og kreftene har blitt lagt under ham.[d]

Footnotes

  1. 3:12 Se Salmenes bok 34:13-17.
  2. 3:18 Eller: hans Ånd ble levende igjen, 19så at han kunne…
  3. 3:19 Disse fengslede ånder er enten døde menneskene, eller noen slags åndelige vesener.
  4. 3:22 Se Salmenes bok 110:1. Den som sitter på Guds høyre side, deler hans makt og regjerer sammen med ham.

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves(A) to your own husbands(B) so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over(C) without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes.(D) Rather, it should be that of your inner self,(E) the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.(F) For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God(G) used to adorn themselves.(H) They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord.(I) You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

Husbands,(J) in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

Suffering for Doing Good

Finally, all of you, be like-minded,(K) be sympathetic, love one another,(L) be compassionate and humble.(M) Do not repay evil with evil(N) or insult with insult.(O) On the contrary, repay evil with blessing,(P) because to this(Q) you were called(R) so that you may inherit a blessing.(S) 10 For,

“Whoever would love life
    and see good days
must keep their tongue from evil
    and their lips from deceitful speech.
11 They must turn from evil and do good;
    they must seek peace and pursue it.
12 For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous
    and his ears are attentive to their prayer,
but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”[a](T)

13 Who is going to harm you if you are eager to do good?(U) 14 But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed.(V) “Do not fear their threats[b]; do not be frightened.”[c](W) 15 But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer(X) to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope(Y) that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, 16 keeping a clear conscience,(Z) so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.(AA) 17 For it is better, if it is God’s will,(AB) to suffer for doing good(AC) than for doing evil. 18 For Christ also suffered once(AD) for sins,(AE) the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God.(AF) He was put to death in the body(AG) but made alive in the Spirit.(AH) 19 After being made alive,[d] he went and made proclamation to the imprisoned spirits(AI) 20 to those who were disobedient long ago when God waited patiently(AJ) in the days of Noah while the ark was being built.(AK) In it only a few people, eight in all,(AL) were saved(AM) through water, 21 and this water symbolizes baptism that now saves you(AN) also—not the removal of dirt from the body but the pledge of a clear conscience(AO) toward God.[e] It saves you by the resurrection of Jesus Christ,(AP) 22 who has gone into heaven(AQ) and is at God’s right hand(AR)—with angels, authorities and powers in submission to him.(AS)

Footnotes

  1. 1 Peter 3:12 Psalm 34:12-16
  2. 1 Peter 3:14 Or fear what they fear
  3. 1 Peter 3:14 Isaiah 8:12
  4. 1 Peter 3:19 Or but made alive in the spirit, 19 in which also
  5. 1 Peter 3:21 Or but an appeal to God for a clear conscience

Chapter 3

Recommendations for Spouses.[a] In the same way, you who are wives should accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if they do not believe the word, they may be won over without words simply by the conduct of their wives as they observe your reverence and your chaste behavior.

[b]Do not seek to adorn yourself externally—by the braiding of your hair and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothing. Rather, let your adornment be of your inner self, the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.

It was in this way that the holy women who placed their hope in God long ago used to adorn themselves and be submissive to their husbands. Thus, Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him her “lord.” You are now her daughters as long as you live good lives and never allow fears to alarm you.

Likewise, you who are husbands must show consideration for your wives in your life together. Treat your wife with respect, for even though she is the weaker partner, she is also an equal heir of God’s gift[c] of life. Thus, your prayers will not be hindered in any way.

Mutual Love.[d] Finally, all of you should be united in spirit, sympathetic, filled with love for one another, compassionate, and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or abuse with abuse. On the contrary, repay with a blessing. This is what you were called to do, so that you might inherit a blessing. 10 For:

“If anyone wishes to love life
    and to experience good days,
he must restrain his tongue from evil
    and his lips from deceitful speech.
11 He must turn away from evil and do good,
    seek peace and pursue it.
12 For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous
    and his ears are attentive to their prayer.
However, the face of the Lord
    is set against those who do evil.”

Christian Conduct in Suffering and Persecution

13 The Blessings of Suffering for Righteousness.[e] Now who is going to harm you if you are eager to do what is right? 14 Yet even if you should suffer for doing what is right, you are thereby blessed. Have no fear of others, and refuse to be intimidated by them. 15 Rather, revere Christ as Lord in your hearts.

Always be prepared to offer an explanation to anyone who asks you to justify the hope that is in you. However, do so with gentleness and respect 16 and with a clean conscience so that those who slander you for your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame. 17 For it is better to suffer for doing what is right, if such is the will of God, than for doing what is wrong.

18 Christ’s Victory and Descent to the Netherworld, and Christian Baptism.[f] For Christ also suffered for our sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, in order to bring you to God. He was put to death in the flesh but raised to life in the spirit.

19 In the spirit[g] also he went to preach to the spirits in prison, 20 those who had refused to obey long ago while God waited patiently in the days of Noah during the building of the ark. In it only a few persons, eight in all, were saved through water.

21 This water prefigured Baptism, which now saves you. It does so not by the washing away of dirt from the body but by the pledge of a good conscience given to God through the resurrection of Jesus Christ. 22 He has entered heaven and is at the right hand of God, with angels, authorities, and powers made subject to him.

Footnotes

  1. 1 Peter 3:1 How does one’s Christianity affect the way that one lives family life? The main problem is the difficult one of the wife who converts but is not followed by her husband. Let her not seek to put pressure on him, but let her give him the witness of a Christian wife whose gentleness and silence are in contrast to agitation and vanity.
    A Christian husband is asked to regard his wife as a believing Christian in all respects, to understand feminine psychology, and to show great sensitivity of heart (see 1 Cor 7:12-15; Eph 5:32-33; Col 3:19).
  2. 1 Peter 3:3 The author does not prohibit the use of jewelry and other adornments but stresses the fact that the greatest adornments are spiritual ones.
  3. 1 Peter 3:7 An equal heir of God’s gift: both spouses in a marriage have received the same gift from God. Hence, there should be mutual respect and love between them (see Eph 5:33; Col 3:19).
  4. 1 Peter 3:8 Mutual love of Christians is expressed in a new type of social relations and inner attitudes that lead up to evangelical behavior (see Lk 6:28; Rom 12:9-20).
  5. 1 Peter 3:13 Persecution must not come as a surprise to believers; it is their lot according to one of the Beatitudes of the Gospel (see Mt 5:10), almost repeated here word for word. Thus, Christians follow the example of Christ, ready to justify their hope but refusing to retaliate with hatred and violence. They are not enemies of society or other people, a crime that has apparently already been leveled at them.
  6. 1 Peter 3:18 The author presents the vision of a new world. Christ’s Death and Resurrection have been victorious over sin; the risen Lord dominates the universe and all the good or evil forces in it, e.g., angels, dominations, and powers. Christ truly died and was in the sojourn of the dead, as the New Testament more than once attests (see Mt 12:40; Acts 2:31; Rom 10:7; Eph 4:8-10).
    The intent of this passage is probably to say that nothing human or cosmic can be excluded from the Redemption that Christ effected. It is in this sense that we are to understand the article of the Creed that speaks of Christ “descending into hell.” The story of Noah (see Gen 6:1—7:4) is interpreted as a saving of the righteous and a destruction of sin; it seems to be taken as a symbolic anticipation of Baptism, which at the time was received by immersion.
  7. 1 Peter 3:19 In the spirit. . . . In the spirit: another translation possible is: “by the Spirit . . . through which.”

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.

Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;

But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:

Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:

Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.

10 For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:

11 Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.

12 For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.

13 And who is he that will harm you, if ye be followers of that which is good?

14 But and if ye suffer for righteousness' sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled;

15 But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:

16 Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ.

17 For it is better, if the will of God be so, that ye suffer for well doing, than for evil doing.

18 For Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh, but quickened by the Spirit:

19 By which also he went and preached unto the spirits in prison;

20 Which sometime were disobedient, when once the longsuffering of God waited in the days of Noah, while the ark was a preparing, wherein few, that is, eight souls were saved by water.

21 The like figure whereunto even baptism doth also now save us (not the putting away of the filth of the flesh, but the answer of a good conscience toward God,) by the resurrection of Jesus Christ:

22 Who is gone into heaven, and is on the right hand of God; angels and authorities and powers being made subject unto him.

Submission to Husbands

Wives, likewise, be (A)submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, (B)they, without a word, may (C)be won by the conduct of their wives, (D)when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. (E)Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be (F)the hidden person of the heart, with the [a]incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, (G)calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.

A Word to Husbands

(H)Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, (I)as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, (J)that your prayers may not be hindered.

Called to Blessing

Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be [b]courteous; (K)not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary (L)blessing, knowing that you were called to this, (M)that you may inherit a blessing. 10 For

(N)“He who would love life
And see good days,
(O)Let him [c]refrain his tongue from evil,
And his lips from speaking deceit.
11 Let him (P)turn away from evil and do good;
(Q)Let him seek peace and pursue it.
12 For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous,
(R)And His ears are open to their prayers;
But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”

Suffering for Right and Wrong

13 (S)And who is he who will harm you if you become followers of what is good? 14 (T)But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you are blessed. (U)“And do not be afraid of their threats, nor be troubled.” 15 But [d]sanctify [e]the Lord God in your hearts, and always (V)be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the (W)hope that is in you, with meekness and fear; 16 (X)having a good conscience, that when they defame you as evildoers, those who revile your good conduct in Christ may be ashamed. 17 For it is better, if it is the will of God, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil.

Christ’s Suffering and Ours

18 For Christ also suffered once for sins, the just for the unjust, that He might bring [f]us to God, being put to death in the flesh but made alive by the Spirit, 19 by whom also He went and preached to the spirits in prison, 20 who formerly were disobedient, [g]when once the Divine longsuffering waited in the days of Noah, while the ark was being prepared, in which a few, that is, eight souls, were saved through water. 21 (Y)There is also an antitype which now saves us—baptism (Z)(not the removal of the filth of the flesh, (AA)but the answer of a good conscience toward God), through the resurrection of Jesus Christ, 22 who has gone into heaven and (AB)is at the right hand of God, (AC)angels and authorities and powers having been made subject to Him.

Footnotes

  1. 1 Peter 3:4 imperishable
  2. 1 Peter 3:8 NU humble
  3. 1 Peter 3:10 restrain
  4. 1 Peter 3:15 set apart
  5. 1 Peter 3:15 NU Christ as Lord
  6. 1 Peter 3:18 NU, M you
  7. 1 Peter 3:20 NU, M when the longsuffering of God waited patiently