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Wives and Husbands

In the same way [2:18], you wives should ·yield [submit; be subject; Eph. 5:21–24; Col. 3:18; C putting the other person’s interests first] to your husbands. Then, if some husbands do not ·obey [or believe] ·God’s teaching [L the word/message], they will be ·persuaded to believe [won over; L gained] without anyone’s saying a word to them. They will be ·persuaded [won over; L gained] by ·the way their wives live [their wives’ conduct/behavior]. Your husbands will see the pure lives you live ·with your respect for God [L in reverence/fear; C fear in the positive sense of reverence for God; Prov. 1:7]. It is not [L external things like] ·fancy [braided; elaborate] hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that should ·make you beautiful [L be your adornment]. No, your beauty should come from ·within you [your inner self; L the hidden/secret person of the heart]—the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit that will never ·be destroyed [fade; perish] and is ·very precious [very valuable; of great worth] to God [Prov. 31:30]. In this same way the holy women who lived long ago and ·followed [L put their hope in] God ·made themselves beautiful [L adorned themselves], ·yielding [submitting; subjecting themselves] to their own husbands. Sarah obeyed Abraham, her husband, and called him her ·master [lord; Gen. 18:12]. And you women are true children of Sarah if you always do what is ·right [good] and ·are not afraid [L fear no fear/intimidation].

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Godly Living

In the same way, you wives, be [a]submissive to your own husbands [subordinate, not as inferior, but out of respect for the responsibilities entrusted to husbands and their accountability to God, and so partnering with them] so that even if some do not obey the word [of God], they may be won over [to Christ] without discussion by the godly lives of their wives,(A) when they see your modest and respectful behavior [together with your devotion and appreciation—love your husband, encourage him, and enjoy him as a blessing from God]. Your adornment must not be merely external—with interweaving and elaborate knotting of the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or [being superficially preoccupied with] dressing in expensive clothes; but let it be [the inner beauty of] the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, [one that is calm and self-controlled, not overanxious, but serene and spiritually mature] which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands and adapting themselves to them; just as Sarah obeyed Abraham [following him and having regard for him as head of their house], calling him [b]lord. And you have become her daughters if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear [that is, being respectful toward your husband but not giving in to intimidation, nor allowing yourself to be led into sin, nor to be harmed].

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Footnotes

  1. 1 Peter 3:1 There are both military and sporting analogies associated with the meaning of the word “submit.” It can refer to the act of “falling in line,” i.e. each soldier reporting to his proper place; or each team member respecting how the team works, i.e. acknowledging and participating in his assigned position.
  2. 1 Peter 3:6 In ancient times a common title of honor and respect.