Principles of Marriage

Now in response to the matters you wrote[a] about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”[b] But because sexual immorality is so common,[c](A) each man should have sexual relations with his own wife,(B) and each woman should have sexual relations with her own husband. A husband should fulfill his marital duty(C) to his wife, and likewise a wife to her husband. A wife does not have the right over her own body, but her husband does. In the same way, a husband does not have the right over his own body, but his wife does. Do not deprive(D) one another—except when you agree for a time, to devote yourselves to[d] prayer. Then come together again; otherwise, Satan may tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all people were as I am. But each has his own gift(E) from God, one person has this gift, another has that.

A Word to the Unmarried

I say to the unmarried[e] and to widows:(F) It is good for them if they remain as I am. But if they do not have self-control,(G) they should marry, since it is better to marry(H) than to burn with desire.

About Married People

10 To the married I give this command(I)—not I, but the Lord—a wife is not to leave[f] her husband. 11 But if she does leave, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband—and a husband is not to divorce his wife.(J) 12 But I (not the Lord) say to the rest: If any brother(K) has an unbelieving wife and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 Also, if any woman has an unbelieving husband and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce her husband. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy(L) by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy by the husband.[g] Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let him leave. A brother or a sister is not bound in such cases. God has called you[h] to live in peace. 16 Wife, for all you know, you might save your husband. Husband, for all you know, you might save your wife.[i]

Various Situations of Life

17 Let each one live his life in the situation the Lord assigned when God called(M) him.[j] This is what I command in all the churches. 18 Was anyone already circumcised when he was called? He should not undo his circumcision. Was anyone called while uncircumcised? He should not get circumcised. 19 Circumcision does not matter and uncircumcision does not matter. Keeping God’s commands is what matters. 20 Let each of you remain in the situation[k] in which he was called. 21 Were you called while a slave? Don’t let it concern you. But if you can become free, by all means take the opportunity.[l] 22 For he who is called by the Lord as a slave(N) is the Lord’s freedman. Likewise he who is called as a free man is Christ’s slave. 23 You were bought(O) at a price; do not become slaves of people. 24 Brothers and sisters, each person is to remain with God in the situation in which he was called.

About the Unmarried and Widows

25 Now about virgins:[m] I have no command from the Lord, but I do give an opinion as one who by the Lord’s mercy(P) is faithful.(Q) 26 Because of the present distress, I think that it is good for a man to remain as he is. 27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28 However, if you do get married,(R) you have not sinned, and if a virgin[n] marries, she has not sinned. But such people will have trouble in this life,[o] and I am trying to spare you.

29 This is what I mean, brothers and sisters: The time is limited,(S) so from now on those who have wives should be as though they had none, 30 those who weep as though they did not weep, those who rejoice(T) as though they did not rejoice, those who buy as though they didn’t own anything, 31 and those who use the world as though they did not make full use of it. For this world in its current form is passing away.(U)

32 I want you to be without concerns. The unmarried man is concerned about the things of the Lord—how he may please(V) the Lord. 33 But the married man is concerned about the things of the world—how he may please his wife— 34 and his interests are divided. The unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the things of the Lord,(W) so that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But the married woman is concerned about the things of the world—how she may please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your own benefit, not to put a restraint on you, but to promote what is proper and so that you may be devoted to the Lord without distraction.

36 If any man thinks he is acting improperly toward the virgin he is engaged to, if she is getting beyond the usual age for marriage, and he feels he should marry—he can do what he wants. He is not sinning; they can get married. 37 But he who stands firm in his heart (who is under no compulsion, but has control over his own will(X)) and has decided in his heart to keep her as his fiancée, will do well. 38 So, then, he who marries his fiancée does well, but he who does not marry will do better.[p]

39 A wife is bound[q] as long as her husband is living. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to anyone she wants—only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she remains as she is, in my opinion. And I think that I also have the Spirit of God.

Footnotes

  1. 7:1 Other mss add to me
  2. 7:1 Or “It is good for a man not to use a woman for sex”; lit “It is good for a man not to touch a woman.”
  3. 7:2 Lit because of immoralities
  4. 7:5 Other mss add fasting and to
  5. 7:8 Or widowers
  6. 7:10 Or separate from, or divorce
  7. 7:14 Lit the brother
  8. 7:15 Other mss read us
  9. 7:16 Or Wife, how do you know that you will save your husband? Husband, how do you know that you will save your wife?
  10. 7:17 Lit called each
  11. 7:20 Lit in the calling
  12. 7:21 Or But even though you can become free, make the most of your position as a slave
  13. 7:25 Or betrothed, or those not yet married
  14. 7:28 Or betrothed woman
  15. 7:28 Lit in the flesh
  16. 7:36–38 Or 36 If any man thinks he is acting improperly toward his virgin daughter, if she is getting beyond the usual age for marriage, and he feels she should marry—he can do what he wants. He is not sinning; she can get married. 37 But he who stands firm in his heart (who is under no compulsion, but has control over his own will) and has decided in his heart to keep his own virgin daughter will do well. 38 So then he who gives his own virgin daughter in marriage does well, but he who does not give his own virgin daughter in marriage will do better.
  17. 7:39 Other mss add by law

Concerning Married Life

Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”(A) But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife,(B) and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time,(C) so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan(D) will not tempt you(E) because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command.(F) I wish that all of you were as I am.(G) But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.(H)

Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.(I) But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry,(J) for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband.(K) 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband.(L) And a husband must not divorce his wife.

12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord):(M) If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.(N)

15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.(O) 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save(P) your husband?(Q) Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Concerning Change of Status

17 Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them.(R) This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.(S) 18 Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised.(T) 19 Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing.(U) Keeping God’s commands is what counts. 20 Each person should remain in the situation they were in when God called them.(V)

21 Were you a slave when you were called? Don’t let it trouble you—although if you can gain your freedom, do so. 22 For the one who was a slave when called to faith in the Lord is the Lord’s freed person;(W) similarly, the one who was free when called is Christ’s slave.(X) 23 You were bought at a price;(Y) do not become slaves of human beings. 24 Brothers and sisters, each person, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation they were in when God called them.(Z)

Concerning the Unmarried

25 Now about virgins: I have no command from the Lord,(AA) but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord’s mercy(AB) is trustworthy. 26 Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for a man to remain as he is.(AC) 27 Are you pledged to a woman? Do not seek to be released. Are you free from such a commitment? Do not look for a wife.(AD) 28 But if you do marry, you have not sinned;(AE) and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.

29 What I mean, brothers and sisters, is that the time is short.(AF) From now on those who have wives should live as if they do not; 30 those who mourn, as if they did not; those who are happy, as if they were not; those who buy something, as if it were not theirs to keep; 31 those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is passing away.(AG)

32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs(AH)—how he can please the Lord. 33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit.(AI) But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided(AJ) devotion to the Lord.

36 If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong[b] and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning.(AK) They should get married. 37 But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has made up his mind not to marry the virgin—this man also does the right thing. 38 So then, he who marries the virgin does right,(AL) but he who does not marry her does better.[c]

39 A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives.(AM) But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.(AN) 40 In my judgment,(AO) she is happier if she stays as she is—and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.

Footnotes

  1. 1 Corinthians 7:8 Or widowers
  2. 1 Corinthians 7:36 Or if she is getting beyond the usual age for marriage
  3. 1 Corinthians 7:38 Or 36 If anyone thinks he is not treating his daughter properly, and if she is getting along in years (or if her passions are too strong), and he feels she ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. He should let her get married. 37 But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has made up his mind to keep the virgin unmarried—this man also does the right thing. 38 So then, he who gives his virgin in marriage does right, but he who does not give her in marriage does better.

婚姻的问题

关于你们信上所提的事,男人不亲近女人倒好。 但为了避免淫乱的事,男人当各有自己的妻子,女人也当各有自己的丈夫。 丈夫对妻子要尽本分;妻子对丈夫也要如此。 妻子对自己的身体没有主张的权柄,权柄在丈夫;丈夫对自己的身体也没有主张的权柄,权柄在妻子。 夫妻不可忽略对方的需求,除非为了要专心祷告,在两相情愿下暂时分房;以后仍要同房,免得撒但趁着你们情不自禁而引诱你们。 我说这话是出于容忍,不是命令。 我愿众人像我一样;但是各人都有来自 神的恩赐,一个是这样,一个是那样。

我对没有嫁娶的和寡妇说,他们若能维持独身像我一样就好。 但他们若不能自制,就应该嫁娶,与其欲火攻心,倒不如结婚为妙。

10 至于那已经嫁娶的,我吩咐他们—其实不是我,而是主吩咐的:妻子不可离开丈夫, 11 若是离开了,不可再嫁,不然要跟丈夫复和;丈夫也不可离弃妻子。

12 我对其余的人说—是我,不是主说—倘若某弟兄有不信的妻子,妻子也情愿和他一起生活,他就不可离弃妻子。 13 妻子有不信的丈夫,丈夫也情愿和她一起生活,她就不可离弃丈夫。 14 因为不信的丈夫会因着妻子成了圣洁;不信的妻子也会因着丈夫[a]成了圣洁。不然,你们的儿女就不洁净了,但现在他们是圣洁的。 15 倘若那不信的人要离开,就由他离开吧!无论是弟兄是姊妹,遇着这样的事都不必拘束。 神召你们原是要你们和睦。 16 你这作妻子的怎么知道不能救你的丈夫呢?你这作丈夫的怎么知道不能救你的妻子呢?

照蒙召时的身份生活

17 无论如何,要照主所分给各人的恩赐和 神所召各人的情况生活。我在各教会里都是这样规定的。 18 有人受割礼后才蒙召,他就不必除去割礼的记号。有人未受割礼前蒙召,他就不必受割礼。 19 受割礼算不了什么,不受割礼也算不了什么,只要谨守 神的诫命就是了。 20 各人蒙召的时候是什么身份,要守住这身份。 21 你是作奴隶时蒙召的吗?不要介意;若能获得自由,就争取自由更好。 22 因为,蒙主呼召的奴仆是主所释放的人;蒙主呼召的自由之人是基督的奴仆。 23 你们是重价买来的;不要作人的奴仆。 24 弟兄们,你们各人蒙召的时候是什么身份,要在 神面前守住这身份。

未婚和寡居

25 关于未婚女子,我没有主的命令,但我既蒙主怜悯、作为一个可信靠的人,把自己的意见告诉你们。 26 因现今的艰难,据我看来,人不如安于现状。 27 你已经有了妻子,就不要求摆脱;你还没有妻子,就不要想娶妻。 28 你若娶妻,并不是犯罪;未婚女子若出嫁,也不是犯罪。然而,这等人会遭受肉身上的苦难,我宁愿你们免受这苦难。

29 弟兄们,我是说:时候不多了。从此以后,那有妻子的,要像没有一样; 30 哀哭的,不像在哀哭;快乐的,不像在快乐;购买的,像一无所得; 31 享受这世界的,不像在享受这世界;因为这世界的局面将要过去了。

32 我愿你们一无挂虑。没有结婚的是为主的事挂虑,想怎样令主喜悦; 33 结了婚的是为世上的事挂虑,想怎样让妻子喜悦, 34 于是,他就分心了。没有结婚的和未婚的女子是为主的事挂虑,为要身体和心灵都圣洁;已经出嫁的是为世上的事挂虑,想怎样让丈夫喜悦。 35 我说这话是为你们的益处,不是要限制你们,而是要你们做合宜的事,得以不分心地对主忠诚。

36 若有人认为自己待他的女儿[b]不合宜,女儿也过了适婚年龄[c],他可以随意处理,不算有罪,让两人结婚就是了。 37 倘若有人心里坚定,没有不得已的事,并且由得自己作主,心里又决定了不让女儿结婚[d],这样做也好。 38 这样看来,让自己的女儿结婚[e]固然是好,不让她结婚更好。

39 丈夫活着的时候,妻子是受约束的;丈夫若长眠了,妻子就自由了,可以随意再嫁,只是要嫁给主里面的人。 40 然而,按我的意见,她若能守节就更有福气。我想我自己也有 神的灵的感动。

Footnotes

  1. 7.14 “丈夫”:原文直译“弟兄”。
  2. 7.36 “女儿”或译“未婚妻”。
  3. 7.36 “女儿…适婚年龄”或译“女儿也过了年龄,应该结婚”;又或译“对未婚妻有强烈的欲望”。
  4. 7.37 “不让女儿结婚”或译“不跟未婚妻结婚”。
  5. 7.38 “让…结婚”或译“跟自己的未婚妻结婚”。