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Advice about Widows, Elders, and Slaves

Never speak harshly to an older man,[a] but appeal to him respectfully as you would to your own father. Talk to younger men as you would to your own brothers. Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters.

Take care of[b] any widow who has no one else to care for her. But if she has children or grandchildren, their first responsibility is to show godliness at home and repay their parents by taking care of them. This is something that pleases God.

Now a true widow, a woman who is truly alone in this world, has placed her hope in God. She prays night and day, asking God for his help. But the widow who lives only for pleasure is spiritually dead even while she lives. Give these instructions to the church so that no one will be open to criticism.

But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers.

A widow who is put on the list for support must be a woman who is at least sixty years old and was faithful to her husband.[c] 10 She must be well respected by everyone because of the good she has done. Has she brought up her children well? Has she been kind to strangers and served other believers humbly?[d] Has she helped those who are in trouble? Has she always been ready to do good?

11 The younger widows should not be on the list, because their physical desires will overpower their devotion to Christ and they will want to remarry. 12 Then they would be guilty of breaking their previous pledge. 13 And if they are on the list, they will learn to be lazy and will spend their time gossiping from house to house, meddling in other people’s business and talking about things they shouldn’t. 14 So I advise these younger widows to marry again, have children, and take care of their own homes. Then the enemy will not be able to say anything against them. 15 For I am afraid that some of them have already gone astray and now follow Satan.

16 If a woman who is a believer has relatives who are widows, she must take care of them and not put the responsibility on the church. Then the church can care for the widows who are truly alone.

17 Elders who do their work well should be respected and paid well,[e] especially those who work hard at both preaching and teaching. 18 For the Scripture says, “You must not muzzle an ox to keep it from eating as it treads out the grain.” And in another place, “Those who work deserve their pay!”[f]

19 Do not listen to an accusation against an elder unless it is confirmed by two or three witnesses. 20 Those who sin should be reprimanded in front of the whole church; this will serve as a strong warning to others.

21 I solemnly command you in the presence of God and Christ Jesus and the highest angels to obey these instructions without taking sides or showing favoritism to anyone.

22 Never be in a hurry about appointing a church leader.[g] Do not share in the sins of others. Keep yourself pure.

23 Don’t drink only water. You ought to drink a little wine for the sake of your stomach because you are sick so often.

24 Remember, the sins of some people are obvious, leading them to certain judgment. But there are others whose sins will not be revealed until later. 25 In the same way, the good deeds of some people are obvious. And the good deeds done in secret will someday come to light.

Footnotes

  1. 5:1 Or an elder.
  2. 5:3 Or Honor.
  3. 5:9 Greek was the wife of one husband.
  4. 5:10 Greek and washed the feet of God’s holy people?
  5. 5:17 Greek should be worthy of double honor.
  6. 5:18 Deut 25:4; Luke 10:7.
  7. 5:22 Greek about the laying on of hands.

How To Act toward Others

Don't correct an older man. Encourage him, as you would your own father. Treat younger men as you would your own brother, and treat older women as you would your own mother. Show the same respect to younger women that you would to your sister.

Take care of any widow who is really in need. But if a widow has children or grandchildren, they should learn to serve God by taking care of her, as she once took care of them. This is what God wants them to do. (A) A widow who is really in need is one who doesn't have any relatives. She has faith in God, and she keeps praying to him night and day, asking for his help.

A widow who thinks only about having a good time is already dead, even though she is still alive.

Tell all this to everyone, so they will do the right thing. People who don't take care of their relatives, and especially their own families, have given up their faith. They are worse than someone who doesn't have faith in the Lord.

For a widow to be put on the list of widows, she must be at least 60 years old, and she must have been faithful in marriage.[a] 10 She must also be well-known for doing all sorts of good things, such as raising children, giving food to strangers, welcoming God's people into her home,[b] helping people in need, and always making herself useful.

11 Don't put young widows on the list. They may later have a strong desire to get married. Then they will turn away from Christ 12 and become guilty of breaking their promise to him. 13 Besides, they will become lazy and get into the habit of going from house to house. Next, they will start gossiping and become busybodies, talking about things that are none of their business.

14 I would prefer that young widows get married, have children, and look after their families. Then the enemy won't have any reason to say insulting things about us. 15 Look what's already happened to some of the young widows! They have turned away to follow Satan.

16 If a woman who is a follower has any widows in her family, she[c] should help them. This will keep the church from having that burden, and then the church can help widows who are really in need.

Church Leaders

17 Church leaders[d] who do their job well deserve to be paid[e] twice as much, especially if they work hard at preaching and teaching. 18 (B) It is just as the Scriptures say, “Don't muzzle an ox when you are using it to grind grain.” You also know the saying, “Workers are worth their pay.”

19 (C) Don't listen to any charge against a church leader, unless at least two or three people bring the same charges. 20 But if any of the leaders should keep on sinning, they must be corrected in front of the whole group, as a warning to everyone else.

21 In the presence of God and Christ Jesus and their chosen angels, I order you to follow my instructions! Be fair with everyone, and don't have any favorites.

22 Don't be too quick to accept people into the service of the Lord[f] by placing your hands on them.

Don't sin because others do, but stay close to God.

23 Stop drinking only water. Take a little wine to help your stomach trouble and the other illnesses you often have.

24 Some people get caught in their sins almost at once, even before the time of judgment. But other people's sins don't show up until later. 25 It is the same with good deeds. Some are easily seen, but none of them can be hidden.

Footnotes

  1. 5.9 been faithful in marriage: Or “been the wife of only one husband.”
  2. 5.10 welcoming God's people into her home: The Greek text has “washing the feet of God's people.” In New Testament times most people either went barefoot or wore sandals, and a host would often wash the feet of special guests.
  3. 5.16 woman … she: Some manuscripts have “man or woman … that person.”
  4. 5.17 church leaders: Or “elders” or “presbyters.”
  5. 5.17 paid: Or “honored” or “respected.”
  6. 5.22 to accept people into the service of the Lord: Or “to forgive people.”

Zorg voor de gemeente (vervolg)

Je zal af en toe ook streng moeten zijn tegen de mensen. Doe dat niet boos. Spreek tegen een oude man met respect, alsof hij je vader is. Spreek met jonge mannen alsof het je broers zijn, met oude vrouwen alsof ze je moeder zijn, met jonge vrouwen alsof ze je zussen zijn. Doe het op een manier die past bij iemand die bij God hoort.

Hulp aan de weduwen

Zorg voor de weduwen die helemaal niemand meer hebben. Maar als een weduwe kinderen of kleinkinderen heeft, moeten díe eerst aan hun eigen familie laten zien dat ze gelovigen zijn en dus voor haar zorgen. Door voor de oude mensen in hun familie te zorgen, bedanken ze de oude mensen voor wat deze vroeger voor hén hebben gedaan. Want dat wil God graag.

Een echte weduwe, dus één die helemaal alleen is, vertrouwt helemaal op God en bidt dag en nacht tot Hem. Maar een weduwe die er maar op los leeft, is levend dood. Leer ook deze dingen aan de mensen. Dan kunnen ze op de goede manier leven, zoals God het wil. Maar als iemand niet voor zijn familie wil zorgen, niet eens voor de familieleden die bij hem in huis wonen, dan is hij geen echte gelovige. Hij is zelfs nog erger dan een ongelovige.

De volgende weduwen mag je opnemen in de groep die door de gemeente verzorgd wordt: vrouwen van 60 jaar of ouder die met maar één man getrouwd zijn geweest. 10 Er moet van hen bekend zijn dat ze hun kinderen goed hebben opgevoed, dat ze gastvrij zijn geweest, dat ze de gelovigen hebben gediend, dat ze mensen in moeilijkheden hebben geholpen en voor iedereen goed zijn.

11 Maar jonge weduwen moet je niet in die groep opnemen. Want als hun liefde voor Christus minder wordt, willen ze trouwen. 12 Dan zijn ze schuldig, omdat ze hun eerdere belofte aan Christus hebben verbroken. 13 Maar ook zullen ze gauw lui worden, doordat ze niets te doen hebben. Dan wennen ze eraan om bij iedereen op visite te gaan. Dat is niet het ergste, maar daar houden ze zich alleen maar bezig met kletspraat en geroddel en met praatjes over dingen waar je niet over hoort te praten. 14 Daarom wil ik dat jonge weduwen weer trouwen, kinderen krijgen en voor hun huis en hun gezin zorgen. Dan geven ze de tegenstanders van het geloof geen kans om slechte dingen van hen te zeggen. 15 Want een paar van hen hebben het geloof al verlaten en zijn de duivel achterna gegaan.

16 Als een gelovige man of vrouw weduwen in de familie heeft, moet hij of zij zelf voor hen zorgen. Dan hoeft de gemeente dat niet te doen. Dan kan de gemeente voor de weduwen zorgen die dat werkelijk nodig hebben omdat ze helemaal geen familie hebben.

Leiders in de gemeente

17 Leiders in de gemeente die op een goede manier leiding geven, hebben recht op veel respect en op een goed loon. Vooral de leiders die de mensen het goede nieuws vertellen en die lesgeven in het woord. 18 Want de Boeken zeggen: 'Je mag een os die in de oogst werkt, geen muilkorf omdoen. Hij moet onder het werken kunnen eten.' En er staat ook: 'Een arbeider heeft er recht op om beloond te worden voor zijn werk.'

19 Behandel een klacht over een leider van de gemeente alleen, als er twee of drie mensen zijn die kunnen zeggen dat het waar is. 20 En als hij inderdaad iets verkeerds heeft gedaan, moet je hem bestraffen waar iedereen bij is. Dan zullen de andere mensen ook ontzag hebben en zijn slechte voorbeeld niet volgen. 21 Ik zeg je in de aanwezigheid van God, van Jezus Christus en van Gods engelen, dat je dit eerlijk moet doen, zonder dat je van tevoren je mening al klaar hebt over iets of iemand!

22 Leg niet zomaar iemand de handen op om hem te zegenen voor een bepaalde taak in de gemeente. Doe ook niet mee met de slechte dingen van anderen. Leef zoals God het wil.

23 Drink voortaan niet alleen maar water, maar ook een beetje wijn. Dat is beter omdat je zo vaak ziek bent en last hebt van je maag.

24 De ongehoorzaamheid van sommige mensen is zó duidelijk te zien, dat iedereen er al van weet vóór de dag van het oordeel. Bij andere mensen weet niemand er iets van. Dan wordt het pas later zichtbaar, op de dag van het oordeel. 25 Op dezelfde manier zijn ook de goede daden van sommige mensen voor iedereen te zien. Maar de goede daden die niet door anderen worden gezien, zullen niet verborgen kunnen blijven maar ook zichtbaar worden op de dag van het oordeel.

Rebuke not an elder, but intreat him as a father; and the younger men as brethren;

The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity.

Honour widows that are widows indeed.

But if any widow have children or nephews, let them learn first to shew piety at home, and to requite their parents: for that is good and acceptable before God.

Now she that is a widow indeed, and desolate, trusteth in God, and continueth in supplications and prayers night and day.

But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth.

And these things give in charge, that they may be blameless.

But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

Let not a widow be taken into the number under threescore years old, having been the wife of one man.

10 Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints' feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work.

11 But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry;

12 Having damnation, because they have cast off their first faith.

13 And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not.

14 I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

15 For some are already turned aside after Satan.

16 If any man or woman that believeth have widows, let them relieve them, and let not the church be charged; that it may relieve them that are widows indeed.

17 Let the elders that rule well be counted worthy of double honour, especially they who labour in the word and doctrine.

18 For the scripture saith, thou shalt not muzzle the ox that treadeth out the corn. And, The labourer is worthy of his reward.

19 Against an elder receive not an accusation, but before two or three witnesses.

20 Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.

21 I charge thee before God, and the Lord Jesus Christ, and the elect angels, that thou observe these things without preferring one before another, doing nothing by partiality.

22 Lay hands suddenly on no man, neither be partaker of other men's sins: keep thyself pure.

23 Drink no longer water, but use a little wine for thy stomach's sake and thine often infirmities.

24 Some men's sins are open beforehand, going before to judgment; and some men they follow after.

25 Likewise also the good works of some are manifest beforehand; and they that are otherwise cannot be hid.