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婚姻的问题

关于你们信上所提的事:“男人不亲近女人倒好。” 但为了避免淫乱的事,男人应当各有自己的妻子,女人也应当各有自己的丈夫。 丈夫对妻子应该尽他的本分,妻子对丈夫也应当这样。 妻子对自己的身体没有主权,权在丈夫;照样,丈夫对自己的身体也没有主权,权在妻子。 夫妻不可彼此亏负,除非为了要专心祷告,双方才可以同意暂时分房。以后仍要同房,免得撒但趁着你们情不自禁的时候诱惑你们。 我说这话是容许你们,并不是命令。 我愿人人都像我一样;只是各人有各人从 神得来的恩赐,有人是这样,有人是那样。

我现在要对未婚的人和寡妇说,他们若保持像我这样就好了; 但如果不能自制,就应当结婚,因为结婚总比欲火焚身好。 10 我要吩咐已婚的人(其实不是我,而是主吩咐的),妻子不可离开丈夫。 11 如果离开了,就不可再嫁,不然,就要跟丈夫复合。丈夫也不可离弃妻子。 12 我要对其余的人说(是我说的,不是主说的),倘若某弟兄有不信的妻子,而她也情愿和他住在一起,他就不要离弃她。 13 如果妻子有不信的丈夫,而他也情愿和她住在一起,她也不要离弃丈夫。 14 因为不信的丈夫因着妻子成为圣洁,不信的妻子也因着那个弟兄成为圣洁了。不然,你们的儿女就是不洁净的,但现在他们都是圣洁的了。 15 如果那不信的要离去,就由他离去吧;在这种情形之下,信主的弟兄或姊妹都不必勉强。 神呼召你们,是要你们和睦。 16 你这作妻子的,你怎么知道能否救你的丈夫呢?你这作丈夫的,你怎么知道能否救你的妻子呢?

保持蒙召时的身分

17 不过,主怎样分给各人, 神怎样呼召各人,各人就要照着去行事为人。我也这样吩咐各教会。 18 有人受了割礼而蒙召的吗?他就不要遮掩割礼的记号。有人未受割礼而蒙召的吗?他就不要受割礼。 19 割礼算不得甚么,没有割礼也算不得甚么,要紧的是遵守 神的命令。 20 各人蒙召的时候怎样,他就应当保持原来的情况。 21 你蒙召的时候是作奴仆的吗?不要为此烦恼。但如果你能够得到自由,就要把握这机会。 22 因为作奴仆的蒙了主的呼召,就是属于主的自由人了;照样,自由的人蒙了呼召,他就是基督的奴仆了。 23 你们是用重价买来的,不要作人的奴仆。 24 弟兄们,你们各人蒙召的时候怎样,就应当在 神面前保持这原来的情况。

未婚、守独身、守寡的问题

25 关于未婚的,我没有主的命令,但我既然蒙了主的怜悯,成为可信靠的人,就把我的意见提出来。 26 为了目前的困难,我认为人最好能保持现状。 27 你已经有了妻子吗?就不要想摆脱。你还没有妻子吗?就不要去找妻子。 28 如果你娶妻子,这不是犯罪;如果处女出嫁,也不是犯罪。不过,这样的人要受肉体上的苦难,我却不愿你们受这苦难。 29 弟兄们,我是说时候不多了。从今以后,有妻子的要像没有妻子的, 30 哀哭的要像不哀哭的,快乐的要像不快乐的,买了东西的要像一无所得的, 31 享用世上百物的要像没有享用的一样,因为这世上的情况都要过去。 32 我愿你们无所挂虑。没有娶妻子的人,挂念的是主的事,想怎样去得主喜悦; 33 但娶了妻子的人是为世上的事挂虑,想怎样去讨妻子的欢心, 34 这样他就分心了。没有结婚的妇女和守独身的女子,挂念的是主的事,好让身体和心灵都成为圣洁;但结了婚的妇女是为世上的事挂虑,想怎样去讨丈夫的欢心。 35 我说这话,是为了你们自己的益处;我不是要限制你们,而是要你们作合宜的事,一心一意地对主忠诚。

36 如果有人认为是亏待了自己的女朋友,她也过了结婚的年龄,而他觉得应当结婚,他就可以照着自己的意思去作,这不是犯罪;他们应该结婚。 37 但如果他心里坚决,没有甚么不得已的原因,又可以控制自己的意志,决心让女朋友持守独身;这样作也是好的。 38 所以,那跟自己的女朋友结婚的,作得好,那不结婚的,作得更好。(或译:“36 如果有人认为待自己的女儿不合适,她也过了结婚的年龄,而且应当这样行,他就可以照着自己的意思去作,让她们结婚,这不是犯罪。37 但如果他心里坚定,没有甚么不得已的原因,又有权作主,决心留下自己的女儿,这样作也是好的。38 所以,那让自己女儿出嫁的,作得好,那不让女儿出嫁的,作得更好。”)

39 丈夫活着的时候,妻子是受约束的;丈夫若死了,她就可以自由地嫁给她愿意嫁的人,只是要嫁给主里的人。 40 然而照我的意见,倘若她能守节,就更有福了。我想我这话也是 神的灵感动的。

Now about those questions you asked in your last letter: my answer is that if you do not marry, it is good. But usually it is best to be married, each man having his own wife, and each woman having her own husband, because otherwise you might fall back into sin.

The man should give his wife all that is her right as a married woman, and the wife should do the same for her husband: for a girl who marries no longer has full right to her own body, for her husband then has his rights to it, too; and in the same way the husband no longer has full right to his own body, for it belongs also to his wife. So do not refuse these rights to each other. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from the rights of marriage for a limited time, so that they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterwards, they should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control.

I’m not saying you must marry, but you certainly may if you wish. I wish everyone could get along without marrying, just as I do. But we are not all the same. God gives some the gift of a husband or wife, and others he gives the gift of being able to stay happily unmarried. So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—better to stay unmarried if you can, just as I am. But if you can’t control yourselves, go ahead and marry. It is better to marry than to burn with lust.

10 Now, for those who are married I have a command, not just a suggestion. And it is not a command from me, for this is what the Lord himself has said: A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she is separated from him, let her remain single or else go back to him. And the husband must not divorce his wife.

12 Here I want to add some suggestions of my own. These are not direct commands from the Lord, but they seem right to me: If a Christian has a wife who is not a Christian, but she wants to stay with him anyway, he must not leave her or divorce her. 13 And if a Christian woman has a husband who isn’t a Christian, and he wants her to stay with him, she must not leave him. 14 For perhaps the husband who isn’t a Christian may become a Christian with the help of his Christian wife. And the wife who isn’t a Christian may become a Christian with the help of her Christian husband. Otherwise, if the family separates, the children might never come to know the Lord; whereas a united family may, in God’s plan, result in the children’s salvation.

15 But if the husband or wife who isn’t a Christian is eager to leave, it is permitted. In such cases the Christian husband or wife should not insist that the other stay, for God wants his children to live in peace and harmony. 16 For, after all, there is no assurance to you wives that your husbands will be converted if they stay; and the same may be said to you husbands concerning your wives.

17 But be sure in deciding these matters that you are living as God intended, marrying or not marrying in accordance with God’s direction and help, and accepting whatever situation God has put you into. This is my rule for all the churches.

18 For instance, a man who already has gone through the Jewish ceremony of circumcision before he became a Christian shouldn’t worry about it; and if he hasn’t been circumcised, he shouldn’t do it now. 19 For it doesn’t make any difference at all whether a Christian has gone through this ceremony or not. But it makes a lot of difference whether he is pleasing God and keeping God’s commandments. That is the important thing.

20 Usually a person should keep on with the work he was doing when God called him. 21 Are you a slave? Don’t let that worry you—but of course, if you get a chance to be free, take it. 22 If the Lord calls you, and you are a slave, remember that Christ has set you free from the awful power of sin; and if he has called you and you are free, remember that you are now a slave of Christ. 23 You have been bought and paid for by Christ, so you belong to him—be free now from all these earthly prides and fears.[a] 24 So, dear brothers, whatever situation a person is in when he becomes a Christian, let him stay there, for now the Lord is there to help him.

25 Now I will try to answer your other question. What about girls who are not yet married? Should they be permitted to do so? In answer to this question, I have no special command for them from the Lord. But the Lord in his kindness has given me wisdom that can be trusted, and I will be glad to tell you what I think.

26 Here is the problem: We Christians are facing great dangers to our lives at present. In times like these I think it is best for a person to remain unmarried. 27 Of course, if you already are married, don’t separate because of this. But if you aren’t, don’t rush into it at this time. 28 But if you men decide to go ahead anyway and get married now, it is all right; and if a girl gets married in times like these, it is no sin. However, marriage will bring extra problems that I wish you didn’t have to face right now.

29 The important thing to remember is that our remaining time is very short, and so are our opportunities for doing the Lord’s work.[b] For that reason those who have wives should stay as free as possible for the Lord; 30 happiness or sadness or wealth should not keep anyone from doing God’s work. 31 Those in frequent contact with the exciting things the world offers should make good use of their opportunities without stopping to enjoy them; for the world in its present form will soon be gone.

32 In all you do, I want you to be free from worry. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. 33 But a married man can’t do that so well; he has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. 34 His interests are divided. It is the same with a girl who marries. She faces the same problem. A girl who is not married is anxious to please the Lord in all she is and does.[c] But a married woman must consider other things such as housekeeping and the likes and dislikes of her husband.

35 I am saying this to help you, not to try to keep you from marrying. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few other things as possible to distract your attention from him.

36 But if anyone feels he ought to marry because he has trouble controlling his passions, it is all right; it is not a sin; let him marry. 37 But if a man has the willpower not to marry and decides that he doesn’t need to and won’t, he has made a wise decision. 38 So the person who marries does well, and the person who doesn’t marry does even better.

39 The wife is part of her husband as long as he lives; if her husband dies, then she may marry again, but only if she marries a Christian. 40 But in my opinion she will be happier if she doesn’t marry again; and I think I am giving you counsel from God’s Spirit when I say this.

Footnotes

  1. 1 Corinthians 7:23 be free now from all these earthly prides and fears, literally, “become not bondservants of men.”
  2. 1 Corinthians 7:29 and so are our opportunities for doing the Lord’s work, implied. those who have wives should stay as free as possible for the Lord, literally, “those who have wives may be as though they didn’t.”
  3. 1 Corinthians 7:34 in all she is and does, literally, “pure in body and in spirit.”