By Richard Lui
When I was but a young, self-proclaimed missionary attending church, my mother would play the piano and we’d sing the hymn Count Your Blessings, which encouraged us to name our blessings “one by one” to “see what God hath done.” The hymn writer knew it wasn’t ideal to acknowledge your blessings in bulk. (After all, this is church, not Costco®.) The hymn points to an important truth: gratitude is essential for a happy and healthful life.
Gratitude, the first cousin of selflessness, simply means being thankful. When you feel it, you’re buoyed by what others have done for you or given to you. Gratitude stands on the shoulders of selflessness, since you can’t be grateful if you believe people owe you something. Gratitude requires the death of entitlement, which is then replaced by the awe of generosity. We recognize the beauty of what we have instead of being jealous of what others have.